Shame and Change
I’ve been making a personal study of shame over the last few months, digging into what it is, what it does, where it comes from, how to respond to it.
For many of us, shame is one of the most punishing feelings. In fact, it is so punishing that we have all sorts of elaborate mechanisms of contorting ourselves around shame and converting the shame into something else, all in an effort to avoid actually experiencing it. We’re so ashamed of our shame that many of us can’t even admit to ourselves that we feel shame!